One of the most important roles of a parent is to instill best behavioural practices within their children and enlisting their cooperation in any way makes things so much easier. As children grow, they respond to the world around them in their own unique way and when a child reaches the age of two, cognitive responses begin to come into play and bad behaviour can emerge.
A two-year-old is driven by pleasure. Jumping up and down on the sofa is fun! With a very short attention span, the toddler is mainly interested in anything in his immediate vision and is not yet of the age where reason plays a part. If a toddler is engaged in an activity and you wish for this to cease, simply introduce something else that holds a fascination and the child will instantly switch their focus to the new arrival. It could be a rattle or a softball and after a while, the child should be able to understand that you wish them to stop doing something. Of course, you will also be looking for a good daycare center, and many Australian parents say that “with an online search, finding a Guardian child care centre near me was easy and hassle-free”. With just a few clicks, the whereabouts of established early learning centres within driving distance is revealed.
Establish Ground Rules
At this age, a child needs (and subconsciously wants) to be given perimeters and by establishing clear ground rules, along with a clear explanation of why this rule needs to be applied, the child will better understand what is required of them. Don’t forget to give reasons for these rules, as the child will be more likely to follow them if they understand the purpose and possible consequences of not following. If you would like some further reading on effective strategies to encourage child cooperation, there are informative articles available online.
If the toddler is jumping on the furniture, for example, simply take them outside onto the lawn and do some jumping together, this would be far more fun for the child and at the same time, you should tell the child that it is OK to jump here but not in there. Negotiating cooperation has its risks and it is very easy to find yourself in a situation where you have to offer a viable alternative, otherwise, there will be no cooperation. In order to avoid this, stand your ground sometimes and always make sure that in the end, you achieved your goal.
Choose Your Words Carefully
It is not a good idea to always use the negative, “Don’t do that” or similar, as this fosters resistance. Rather explained that by continuing to do whatever it is they are doing, a bad thing could happen and we don’t want that. Your tone of voice is also important and try to keep things upbeat and positive when communicating your needs.
As a new parent, it pays to do a little research on child rearing and take advantage of the professional approach, and with some careful thought before action, you should be able to encourage your child to cooperate.
A millenial mom (of two boys) who has passion in makeup and motherhood in between.